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Distance in a relationship can be very difficult to handle especially in a relationship where there was no form of distance from the beginning and suddenly the distance happens. There are so many things that cause distance. For example, when one of the partners is transferred to another state because of a job or when one of the partners has to go out of the country for education and the other party remains in the country.
Whatever the case is and whatever the cause of the distance may be, it can be very hard to adapt and if one is not careful, it can lead to the relationship coming to an end. Distance either helps you to realize the value of your partner or it makes you see things clearly and see reasons why you should not be with that person because when you have space, you are able to see things clearly. In situations where you know you love your partner and you want to make it work despite the distance, here are some things you can do.
It can be hard to handle a long distance relationship especially when it is not something you are used to. The first step to handling a long distance relationship is accepting the reality and coming to terms with it. Accept the fact that the distance is going to be part of your new life.
No matter how difficult it may be, you have to accept the fact that there are going to be some sort of changes in your relationship. But also know that the changes can also help your relationship in a good way (read on the advantages of long distance relationship here) and not the opposite.
Constant communication is very important to keep a long distance relationship. Communication has to be stronger than it was before when you are in a distant relationship. The calls and messages have to be very consistent. If you and your partner talk about twice daily before the distance since you two always had the opportunity to see. Now that things have changed, the number of times you both talk on the phone has to increase, same as the number of messages. Luckily, in this era of social media, it is easier for people to keep in touch constantly; (read more about networking) you can use social media as an additional means of communication. The both of you can chat constantly, engage in video calls and talk about the little things you guys will have talked about if you were together. That way, it will make the distance a bit easier to handle and you guys will not feel like you are far away from each other.
It is very unlikely that a long distance will work without trust. This is because you will not be seeing your partner often and if you do not trust them, you may have a million reasons to doubt whatever they say because you cannot see them anyways and there are no form of facial or physical expressions whatsoever between you guys. Therefore, the only thing you can hold on to is their words. If you do not trust your partner, it will be difficult for you to believe whatever they say and doubting your partner or not believing their words when you are in a long distance relationship, it will be very difficult for the relationship to work.
Just because both of you are not together physically does not mean that you cannot do things together. You can connect in some other ways like watching the same TV shows, programs, and movies at the same time and talk about it, analyze it, make fun about it. This will make it feel like you are together to an extent and it will not make the distance look all that bad.
Discuss what lies ahead for both of you. Sharing of goals, dreams, and plans together will help the two of you feel comfortable about the relationship because you both have an idea of where the relationship is leading to which makes you more committed to one another in spite the distance.
When you are in a long distance relationship, you will have negative thoughts and you may be paranoid from time to time. This is because you are miles away and you may have the feeling that your partner may meet new people and probably get close to those they see around them. To avoid having these constant thoughts, you have to always stay positive and optimistic despite the distance. Have the mindset that the distance does not have to affect your relationship negatively (read more about the disadvantages of long distance relationship) and that if many relationships have survived long distance, yours can also survive it.
Do not engage any form of third party to your relationship. If you feel or you have any doubts about your relationship, talk about it to your partner instead of your friends or any form of third party. This is because if you decide to talk about your fears to your friends, they may have some wrong advice for you. Remember they are not the ones in the relationship and they do not know your partner as much as you do. So, they will only be giving you advice based on the bits and pieces of information they get from you which in most cases is not enough to give a credible advice.
Distance requires more sacrifice. You and your partner should always try to make out time to see each other from time to time. There are times when you may feel like the relationship is not going to work but when you think about the fact that you both have made plans to see, it will give you something to look forward to and make you remember that it is possible that the relationship can work despite the distance.
Wish you luck
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