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Why don’t I have close friends?
Most people find them self regularly asking the question “why don’t I have close friends” , this question is so common that it has become one of the predictive option Google search page will show you by just typing “ why don’t I have” in the Google search page .Most times we even believe our previous friendships ended as a result of us not really being as much good friend as our partner expects, this guilt, lack of confidence, low self esteem and a lot of other reasons make people ask this question regularly “ how do I become a better friend.
Often times people feel so guilty because they are not as committed to their former friendship as the other person or because the other person seems perfect and they feel they don’t have enough to offer to the friendship as much as the other person, they think that’s why the friendship ended.
What is really preventing you from having friends? Outlined below are few of the most common excuses people give them self when trying to justify why they don’t have good friends. In addition to that I have clearly explained what you should do or think when these excuses start rolling in your mind.
You feel you are too busy
Majority of us feel over-occupied and overbooked, so its not a surprise that we often feel excessively busy to spare any sensible time with your friends. Starting and keeping up friendships does require significant effort and time, there’s no way to avoid these two. Even though, you have a busy life, you can discover ways to give your friendship a higher priority and set aside some time to spend with friends.
You feel you will be rejected
Making new friends means putting yourself out there, and that can be a intimidating. It’s particularly scary when you are the type of person that has trust issues, if in the past, you have been betrayed, abused, or traumatized, or you are the kind of person that really feel insecure.
When you find it difficult to trust others, your friendships will be ruled by unnecessary apprehension of betrayal, fear of being let down, fear of feeling powerless and vulnerable. but, it is possible to overcome your fear of trusting others. By reading the right articles and believing the fact that your past experience with people is not a factor of your future experience, you should then try to figure out the root of your mistrust and look for ways to build both your present friendship and your future ones
For more general insecurities and apprehension or rejection, you should try and re-evaluate your attitude. Is it accurate to say that you are letting yourself believe the fact that in the event that somebody is not interested in your friendship as much as you are that it will be completely awful and be the most embarrassing thing ever to happen to you? Do you feel as though any rejection will taunt you forever or prove the fact that you’re unlikable or bound to be friendless? These fears impede a person from making fulfilling friendships. No one likes to be rejected, yet there are healthier approaches to take a manage rejection and not make it feel so saddening.
Improve your chances of having a friend by being a better person
Keep in mind that making a friend is simply the start of the journey into friendship. Friendships require some serious time and energy to form and even require more time and effort to make stronger. So as to move from acquaintance to good friends, you have to nurture and put effort and time into that new friendship. It’s a procedure that needs time, interest, effort and enthusiasm for the other person.
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