How to get your Friend Back After A Fight Or Misunderstanding
Getting back your closest friend may feel impossible, but don't forget that the things that hold two individuals together don't just vanish overnight. To get your closest friend back after a misunderstanding or after another person has entered the cliche (for instance another friend, boyfriend or girlfriend), use one of the techniques listed below
1. Ignore The Rumors
Try not to become involved with any rumors. when friends fight, different friends take sides and begin gossiping. This can amplify the emotions and anger. immediately anyone starts talking badly about the other person, politely request that they stop and say that you're not interested. Try not to say anything concerning your friend when he or she is not there, either, they will end up hearing it, and this wont help the situation.
2. Sincerely Apologizing
Make a sincere heartfelt apology. In the event that you've done something really wrong, just saying "I'm sorry" most of the time is not enough. You have to be specific and detailed. Even though there is the possibility that you don't think the fight or misunderstanding was your fault, you may need to take the more responsible option and be the first to apologize if u ever need to get the friendship back to normal. Things to consider: Try not to say "I'm sorry you feel that way." This isn't a genuine apology. You have to be sorry for whatever it is you did, not how they reacted to it.
In the event that you were not the person who started the fight, apologize for how you responded and reacted. just say, "I'm sorry I shouted at you" or "I'm sorry I didn't consider you important" or whatever else needs to be said.
Try not to point fingers. Regardless of the fact that your friend is at fault, that is something you can work out later. Initially, you have to get back on talking terms. Spare the reasons. Saying "I'm sorry, but… " and after that making a long list of reasons why you did it is simply more offending and insulting to the friend you are apologizing to.
Only give reasons when they are valid. just say "I'm sorry I said the things I said. I was having a terrible day and took it out on you" is a valid reason that will most likely make your friend feel better.
Don't take responsibility for anything you didn't do. In the event that your friend caused the fight, there's no reason why you should take the fall. (Regardless of the fact that it "settles" things in the short term, you'll simply wind up disliking them later.) Instead, apologize for every every wrong thing you did, but don't even say the things they did. Let your friend think everything over. After that, it'll be his or her turn to apologize back to you. if your friend wont talk to you in person, compose an email – or, in the event that you think they'll delete it, compose a note and place it in their locker, car, e.t.c
3. Let your friend know how you feel
Explain how you feel in "I" and "we" terms. The most ideal way to face a friend about what they've done is to let them know how it affected you. Explain the whole situation my making use of just the words like "I" and "we," never "you." Never tell your friend what they did to you. This will put them on edge and make them a great deal less inclined to listen to whatever it is you want to say (particularly if that you've misjudged the situation).
Wrong thing to say: "You really hurt my feelings. You were just shouting at me, didn't give me a chance to defend myself, and didn't even listen when I tried to explain later. I don't even think you consider this friendship important anymore."
Right thing to say: "My feelings were truly hurt by our fight. I had a feeling that I was being attached and didn't have an opportunity to defend myself, even when I attempted to clarify things later. Our friendship means the world to me and I truly need us to work this out." Give your friend space if they need it.
4. Give him or her breathing space
If you have done everything you can and your friend is still mad, they might just need time to cool down, think things over, and recover. Constantly calling, texting, emailing, and pestering them is not going to put them in a forgiving mood. And besides, it’s hard to miss somebody who’s always around.
Please don’t confuse this with giving your friend the cold shoulder. Playing games is not what real friends do. Simply stay out of the person’s hair for a while – and if you happen to bump into each other, keep it friendly.
Try not to ignore or neglect a friend in pain.
Alright, so you've ignored all the rumors concerning the friend , apologized, explain your side of the story, and given your friend space. Why are they still mad? If your friend is an introvert in nature, perhaps you haven't really given them the opportunity to get everything off their chest. If this is the case, ask them what they feel you did wrong so you can settle it.
Try not wait for things to blow out of proportion or they might never get back to normal again.
Truly and sincerely forgive and forget, immediately the fight has been settled, don't continue rebuffing your friend, giving them cold shoulders, or bringing up mistakes they had previously made into new fights. forgive, forget and move on.
Enjoy your friendship